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Tuesday, July 26, 2011

A big Thank you !!!

Thought of writing a blog today but too lazy after I finished couple of projects I was working on.  There's been a bit of gap in my blogs due to hectic travel and projects.  Also, spent some good two weeks with my family here in Dubai :)

I was so delighted to see my blog page today and realize I've hit the 4 digits on readership!!! Yes, more than 1,000 reads as of today morning.

I am glad people do read my blog so much and also appreciate all the comments, feedback and criticism....

You guys encourage me to write more (this is official warning!!!!).  Don't blame me later that I didn't warn you.... :)

Again I will take this opportunity to thank few of my regular followers - Anu, Sangeetha (my official Ko Pa Se), Sriram and the recent addition to my readers list Jana... :)  You guys make the difference!

Thanks again for your interest in my blog....

Will be back soon with my blog (quite a few topics are already written half-way!).

Love and peace to all,
SK

Monday, July 18, 2011

CHARITY - Should we publicize???

My friend Sangeetha wrote a blog about this last month.  This blog can be viewed at: http://www.sangeethaarunachalam.com/?p=439
However, my views on charity is totally different.  I don’t think anybody should be publicizing about his or her charity work until and unless you want the entire world to praise you about what you have done.
In my opinion, the above applies only to individuals.  I am not saying trusts and other charitable organizations should keep a low profile.  These trusts and other charitable organizations are started with a vision to help the needy by collecting as much contribution as they can and hence requires publicity.
Jai Sarathy, Sangeetha and other younger generation people have started a trust called Manasika Foundation in Chennai.  They have their Facebook page and are doing whatever they can to help orphan children.
But as an individual, if I have to tell what all charity work I’ve done, then it is like I’m seeking some form of publicity from what I’ve done.  If that’s the case, then I won’t call the money given away as “charity” but rather would call it as “publicity expenses”!!!!!  
If our aim is to have publicity, why give money to some needy people, take photograph and publicize their inabilities and their need for money also along with our good publicity?  Just go ahead print posters, banners and stick it on every compound wall in your city… That will help I guess!
What is Charity?  As per Wikipedia, it is defined as the practice of benevolent giving and caring.   The term charity is derived from Jewish word Tzedakah, which is the Jewish concept of giving to worthy causes or people in need.
Now, what is worthy cause to you may not be worthy cause for me.   If I read about somebody doing a charity work and I feel it is not necessary to develop such things and encourage by giving charity, I get furious… Even though I don’t comment most of the times, I start to hate people offering and seeking charity for such acts.  By this publicity, actually sometimes we may all lose interest in charity and that’s one of the principle reason, I believe we should donate, help and contribute towards charity whichever we feel like doing without any publicity.
Why do we engage ourselves in charity activities?  For me personally, it’s for self-satisfaction.  A peace of mind when I know I’ve helped in some way to people who are in need.  If charity is for inner peace and self-satisfaction, why do we need to publicize it?
Charity takes many forms… Helping a beggar (disabled) on the road, giving money for school fees to needy parents in order to educate their children, giving books to children in need, helping orphanages to provide proper food, shelter and education to kids, etc.…etc.…
For many people, donations given to temples are also considered as charity.  In my opinion, whatever we do for a temple does not fall under the category charity.  If we donate money specifically for a free food scheme or education scheme of a temple or other religious institutions, then it can be called charity, as we know the money is used only for that purpose.  However, the money we put in the “hundi” of many temples cannot be called charity.  Most of the temples use such money for various other purposes (including complete golden karpagraham at Tirupati temple and other temple related works).
I am not against we offering money to temple or other religious institutions.  My point is that it cannot be called charity.   Such offerings to temples and other religious institutions take a total different aspect called religion and I’m not willing to dwell into that topic (at least for now).
So, bottom line, I don’t think we should be publicizing our charity works until and unless our only aim to do such things are for publicity.
Any comments, feedback, criticism from my friends?

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Marriages..... My own view

Friends, after a long break, I am back to blogging... Been hectic couple of weeks (or more... I lost count) on the work front.  Last one week, my family is also here in Dubai and been very busy with them and having lot of fun.... :)

Thought I will write this blog as reply to my friend Sangeetha's blog about marriages.  Visit this link to read Sangeetha's views on marriages:  


In my opinion, marriages are a social event where you get to see and mingle with lots of friends and family members whom you may not have a chance to meet frequently.  So, the event should be memorable for all good reasons.

Apart from that, the way the marriage is conducted, amount of money spent, etc. depends on every individual's capability and their wishes.

I took care of all arrangements for my niece's wedding.  Wanted to make it a grand event and I think I've succeeded to a great extent.  Was involved in every aspect of marriage arrangement to ensure there's no room for any complaint from anybody.

Since I'm in logistics business and know what it takes to spoil a grand event, I ensured to get involved in all the details.  When the caterer {God bless him... When I wanted clouds, he was aiming for heaven and beyond !!!! :) } started explaining me the menu for the entire event, I started showing off my experience in food service industry.  Instead of regular juice or anything else, I told him we need to serve tender coconut juice (ilaneer) during the marriage.  The concept looks simple but I know it is very difficult to arrange tender coconut juice for about 1,000 people without it getting spoiled.

Result??? Everyone who attended the marriage appreciated it.  I even heard comments from some elders stating "in so many marriages I have attended so far, this is the first marriage I've seen tender coconut juice being served"... That satisfaction and remark gave me and the catering team a big boost.... :)

Similarly, a lot of other arrangements... I can keep writing but as usual didn't want to brag about things I could do and done... :)

My bottom line opinion is that spend all you can on marriages to make everyone happy.  After all it's once in a life time occasion for both bride and the groom....

As Sangeetha rightly said in her blog about marriages, the only thing many of us remember after some years about a marriage is the food... There's nothing else which matters.

About all other things listed by Sangeetha (I'm not going to list them here and make this blog look like a duplicate of that blog), it all depends on every individual.  If the bride and/or groom are not comfortable with few things, just leave it be. 

I think I've posted my opinions on this and as usual, look forward to comments / feedback and criticism from my friends.... Feel like I'm losing touch in writing blogs after this gap...

Will continue to write on other topics which I have penned down during this break.

See you all in my next blog....